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Lately, I’ve been looking into getting a harness for Cog. While looking up information, however, I see people fighting about harnesses for children. “Your child isn’t a DOG!” they cry! And… that is seemingly it for the argument against them, or maybe that they’ll be embarrassed about it when they are older. Well, I think that’s a load of BS.
People do a lot of similar things to their dogs. For example: eating out of bowls, praising good behaviour, rewarding with treats, potty training, etcetera. The thing that people are forgetting is that many adults use harnesses for safety. Rock Climbers, window washers, electricians, construction workers, astronauts, welders, scuba divers; what they all have in common with a toddler, is that they are in an environment that can be unsafe. A harness is simply a precaution to keep someone safe when they are in a situation that could be dangerous to them.
I can’t understand why people are so critical of how someone chooses to keep their kid safe. Like, it isn’t their kid. Why do they care so much? Do they just like feeling superior to other people? Parents that use harnesses are extra awesome because they have to deal with those Judgey Judiths telling them that they are treating their child like an animal but still go against the tide because they know what is best for their child. So harness parents, keep your head high and say “I didn’t ask you, Linda“.
So here are some reasons that Harnesses are GREAT
First and foremost, the idea of using a harness is for the child’s safety. It isn’t lazy to want to make sure that your kid is safe. There are a lot of people who think that using a harness is lazy parenting. It’s not, it’s just an extra level of security to make parents feel confident that their child is safe. Some parents have runners, or kids that don’t want to hold hands. It isn’t that these children aren’t well behaved, or that they haven’t been disciplined properly. Some kids are just more high energy or are too young to understand that they need to stay close.
It would be terrifying to go out to someplace like a theme park, convention, festival, or even a mall (just imagine at Christmas!) and have your child lost in the crowd. Not all kids are content to be contained in their strollers, they just gotta move! When you go to a busy place, and they don’t want to be restrained, a harness would probably be your best friend. Especially if you have more than one kiddo, and don’t want them running off in separate directions.
Let’s be real. Unless you live in suburbia, or out in the country, you probably have a busy street. Theoretically, holding hands while walking down the street is fine, but there’s always that chance that your small kid could see a dog or something across the street and break away from you. This isn’t to say that you can’t hold your kid’s hand. The harness can be an extra level of security. So you can still hold your little one’s hand and secure the strap to your belt so that if your kid does run off, you can still keep them safe.
Parenting is hard enough as it is. Being constantly tired means that maybe you aren’t as alert as you could be. That’s where harnesses come in! You can let your guard down, just a little, and save some of that much needed mental energy. Knowing that if you look away for a second, that your child isn’t going to be able to bolt too far.
Harnesses these days are actually pretty cute. I mean, they still sell the standard ones that have the sole purpose of being a harness, but there are a lot of cute ones now too. They have ones that look like plushie backpacks, ones that look like the child is piggybacking an animal, ones that just look like regular backpacks… These ain’t your mama’s harnesses. If you are crafty you could even make a custom one for your kid!